There are so many ways to include aspects of being othered, othering others, and including the topic in memoir. How do we realize othering? Does it need to be only treating someone as different in some way? Must it include hierarchy? Must it create or magnify difference? What about deception and lying?
How do silos, isolation, and political divides amplify othering? By how much? Which one has impacted you the most personally and professionally?
Do you have experience helping others heal from othering? How have you healed? Has it gotten better or worse throughout your life?
If you have been othered in school settings, what were the differences between kids, teens, and adults doing it?
Do you have memories of elders talking about the subject? What did they call it? Do about it?
Ghosting is a term for a type of othering that demeans through the refusal to communicate. Other terms may be related to these such as snobbery and passive aggression. There are also physical actions that may go along with this such as back turning, the turning up of your nose, and swaggering and strutting.
Unfortunately, othering can escalate and lead to physical violence beyond the psychological cruelty and social slander whether done for religious, political, racial, and/or economic reasons. Access is being denied to a resources for a reason.
Women need to share how they have experienced othering, what it caused, how it progressed, and whether being on the receiving end changed or intensified likelihood to engage in it.
Anger, fear, and self-protection may motivate othering as well as general meanness, but on the receiving end it is difficult to distinguish.
The recent expansion of communication channels via the internet through social media has increased type and ease of setting people up to experience methods of othering. The need to understand what it does to both the person who does the shunning and the person shunned.
Looking at your experience of exclusion without touching on how the othering was done, with what intention it was done, and the physical and social consequences of it misses key elements that can bring understanding to your readers.
It took me a minute to figure out what you meant by “othering”. If I’m understanding it correctly then when we moved to the south. I was a Yankee so didn’t belong (I even had one boy in middle school tell me he hated me because my “side” won the war). The community we moved to was small and a lot of people were cliquish so I was often made to feel like I was on the outside since I wasn’t born and raised there (no matter that I was only 8).
I should have defined earlier. Yes, that is an example of Othering. It is at this level with kids and can escalate to bullying. Century long suspicion of “others” can lead to war. Humans can be very mean.